I came to a decision this morning.

Sure, it's fast, but I'm a pretty fast decision maker as a generality. I like things to happen now!

Anyway, I may go into this more later (I'm hurtin' right now, and not really in zee blogging mood), but I have decided that I will, in fact, postpone the massage therapy program for a year.

I'm postponing, not quitting. And it's a mature, thought-out decision, not a failure.

I just don't want to make a bunch of progress towards getting my health straightened back out and then go into a big ol' relapse because I pushed it too hard, too soon. I'm trying to look more at the long-term, and I think that this is the best decision I can make for myself right now.

I talked to C this morning about my thoughts last night, and the possible options, and all that stuff. He's behind me no matter what I choose, but the big epiphany for me was realizing that even if I'm "just" a housewife, he's fine with that. I have the freedom to choose what's best for me, and he's okay with whatever I decide. That is very freeing. To know that he will neither think less of me nor resent me for not "pitching in"... that allows me to make a decision based on what is really the best, rather than a decision motivated by the fear of rejection or other emotions.

Also... this means I can go to J's wedding! I would be lying if I didn't say that this was a slight motivating factor in my plans... But now we can combine the "let's go get my cat and the rest of my stuff" trip with J's wedding, so that's perfect. I'm starting to save up already.

I have other things I can focus on to keep me occupied while I really work on getting myself to a healthy place. It reminds me of what I went through in Id with the S's... I kinda dinked around and kept myself occupied with work of various sorts while I put a lot of focused energy into healing emotionally and mentally from the past abuse. Now that I've advanced much further emotionally, it's time to focus on advancing physically.

Honestly, I do feel relieved having come to an actual decision. This question of "but can you do the massage program?" has been brought up to me many times through the past few months by many different people. I brushed them off as party poopers, determined to charge headfirst into the challenge and prove myself a Mighty Fibromyalgia Warrior. However... I'm thinking at this point that maybe discretion is the better part of valor. I'm still a Warrior... but taking a different tack.

The best part? I feel good about this decision. I believe I'm doing the right thing, and I feel peaceful and settled. I can see that my reasons are good ones, and that I am doing this for good reasons, so I am not afraid. (Much.) Also? It's my life, and it doesn't matter if anyone else agrees or disagrees, frankly. As long as I (and C, since he has a stake in this now) am okay with it and believe I'm on the right path, well... that's what really matters.

6 thoughts:

  • Julie Rose | April 4, 2013 at 6:25 AM

    I'm proud of you, Mrs. Mighty Warrior! I (obviously) WANT you to be able to chase your dreams and make the massage therapy thing happen, but I think it is very wise and mature of you to make this decision, based on the long-term goal of recovering your health. I, too, would be very sad to see you make progress over the summer and then lose it by working too hard too soon. And hey, even if you're "just" a housewife, you'll be one of the most amazingly inspiring housewives out there, through your work with the HJ and your new fibro blog (hint hint! lol) or, you know, whatever you decide to do. :)

    Love ya!

  • Optimistic Existentialist | April 4, 2013 at 10:51 AM

    Being on the right path is most certainly what matters :) the program will still be there next year.

  • Optimistic Existentialist | April 4, 2013 at 1:22 PM

    p.s. just read the comment you left on my post - you leave the most AMAZING comments. You're a fascinating soul my friend.

  • Invictus | April 4, 2013 at 6:39 PM

    Thank you, m'dear. I appreciate that a lot.

  • Invictus | April 4, 2013 at 6:40 PM

    That it will! But I'm the sort that wants to do things *now*! So waiting is killer ^_^ But sometimes it must be done.

  • Invictus | April 4, 2013 at 6:40 PM

    Thank ye, thank ye kindly!

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